Are you struggling with your confidence? Does your self esteem keep you away from doing what you actually want? Well I used to to have the same problems. I used to get bullied for being the skinniest kid in out school. This really affected my life. I had self esteem issues and I wasn´t able to do or say what I actually wanted to, because I was afraid that people would disagree with my opinion. I didn´t talk girls because I always had a hard time approaching them at first place. This really wasn´t a satisfying time as a child.
However I made one major adjustment in my life: I started to go to the Gym. At first people laughed at me and thought I was stupid. They asked themselves why such a skinny kid could start to go to the gym. Well they asked themselves those questions until I saw my first results. Soon they were quit. Soon they were jealous. Soon they realized that I was doing something they weren´t able to do.
But this is not what this blog post is about. In this blog post I want to talk about my journey. The things I have learned in order to become the confident person I am today. Going to the gym was the stepping stone for me to start work on my personality. Especially things like confidence, success, mindset and work ethic really attracted my mind. I wrote a course about how to build true inner confidence, so in case you are interested check it out. I share all of my knowledge I have achieved through my own mistakes, my own experiences and hours of research:
1. Essential Changes you have to make NOW
The most important this I have learned is that negatvity is a bitch. You completely should remove negativity in every possible way from your life:
First start with yourself. Stop that negative self talk. Stop telling yourself that you can´t do something. You are the only person that keeps you away from doing what you actually want so f*ck everyone that says you can´t do something.
Remove people that are toxic for you. One thing that was really important in order to gain confidence was removing the people that are just bad for me and start meeting new people that actually provide value for me. You are the combination of the 5 people you spend most time with so if you are friends are up to no good you should remove them from your life as soon as possible. I can honestly tell you that if you remove one toxic person in your life right now and get one really influential person instead you already will be much more confident.
2. Change your Mindset
Believe. Picture yourself winning, so you will increase your chances of actually succeeding in a certain task increases. If you truly believe that you can do something it will be so much easier for you to achieve that goal since you already have the right mindset. Your work ethic will increase and this ultimately will make you a much more confident person since you experience small accomplishments every single day.
Learn how to deal with failure. It´s really essential to learn how to deal with failure. If you think of failure as a bad thing then you already have lost. Failure is the opportunity to improve. Recognizing this is crucial. If you realize that failure just is an indication that you aren´t ready for a certain task then you have so much room to improve. The most successful people on this world have failed multiple times. But what separates them from unsuccessful people is that they kept going, learned through their mistakes and then actually succeeded
3. Actions that will lead you to True Inner Confidence
Look for challenges. Get out of your comfort zone. I know this is really hard but confidence just is the trust to your abilities. If you are able to get out of your comfort zone and you actually achieve small things, your confidence will increase, trust me. The first time I was able to do some cool looking push ups on a party was a huge confidence boost for me. The first time I achieved the “muscle up” (a fitness move) was such a great feeling. I want you to be hungry for those feelings as well. If you are able to improve on your craft, your confidence will increase as well.
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I wish you best of success with increasing your confidence and becoming the best version you can be